You might be wondering why I went into a sudden hiatus the past couple of weeks. Well, my nanay passed away last week following more than a week in the hospital. And I miss her terribly. It’s true that she has been bedridden for months now before she passed away but then she was still there and I could visit her and take care of her and tell her how much we love her.
My last memory of when she was still energetic and laughing was last Summer. We took her on a trip to La Union. We stayed at Sunset Bay Beach Resort (Check out Part 1 and Part 2 here) and at Thunderbird Resorts. We still had a couple of trips after that but we had to cancel because in a month’s time, her body became weak and she became bedridden.
She has Alzheimer’s Disease. I remember it starting when tatay passed away more than two years ago and it got worse each day. She started forgetting us as her children and she started thinking of us as her siblings and my brother, her boyfriend. Then she forgot about us completely. I don’t really want to go into complete details but it finally led to her not wanting to eat and it resulted in her health declining.
She finally joined our creator last October 9, 2018.
Since she had been bedridden for a few months, you can say that we were already prepared for her passing. I mean the shock factor wasn’t there but you can never really be prepared for something like this. It’s hard to lose both parents. Memories of them do come flooding especially on times when I’m alone and my mind is not busy. And it feels like my heart is going to explode.
Wake and Cremation
Just like what happened at my tatay’s wake, Nanay’s wake became a mini-reunion for our family. Both Valderrama (my father’s side of the family) and Diwa (my mother’s side of the family) were present, offering love, sympathy, and prayers. Neighbors and friends were also there and offered their condolences.
After the cremation, Tita Becky treated the whole clan for early dinner at Mandarin Sky at the new Caloocan City Hall.
This is us after dinner and what I like about this mini-reunion is that those whose had misunderstandings in the family were able to patch up their relationships, those who needed has asked for forgiveness, and those who have hate in their hearts has learned to forgive. Until the end, nanay still has affected her family in a positive way.
I would always remember my nanay as a kindest, strongest person I know. She is a superwoman who can multitask her way out of 100 tasks at once.
It’s heartbreaking that both she and my tatay are now gone but it also gives me a sense of peace knowing that they’re already together. I would always cherish the memories I have with them and my heart would always overflow with love whenever I remember them.
Goodbye Nanay. I will always miss you.